Managing My Resistance: Learning to Flow with What Life Offers

One of the things that interests me most about conflict is the tendency to resist it and the ways in which this resistance causes me to miss key moments- when I might respond with purpose and intent Contd...

One of the things that interests me most about conflict is the tendency to resist it and the ways in which this resistance causes me to miss key moments- when I might respond with purpose and intention but do not. Resistance is a reactive habit. When I resist- I/' m on automatic- and I fail to spot the opportunity to respond with the conscious engagement of being fully present.

Aikido – the martial art I practice and teach – suggests that resistance escalates conflict. When I push- the conflict pushes back. Aikido replaces resistance with alignment and redirection. I change my view from "this person is attacking me" to "this person is offering energy that I can use."

Aikido (pronounced eye-key-doe) is Japanese for "the way of blending with energy." Ki means universal energy or life force. Ki Moments are those in which we are fully aware of our life force and our ability to influence our environment.

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In aikido- the attack is inevitable- a part of life. We can influence the outcome of the attack by the way in which we engage and direct it. Will I resist and create a contest- ensuring a win-lose outcome? Or will I practice aikido and transform the attack into a gift of energy? How do I make these choices when I am feeling attacked?

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My work focuses on bringing aikido principles to life in "off the mat" scenarios – the life "attacks" that we experience in the workplace- in our relationships- and in difficult life events that can occur at any time. How can we turn daily conflicts into life teachers? Just by asking the question- we begin to transform conflict moments into ki moments and attacks into energy we can use to build the kinds of home- work- and community environments we want to live in.

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  Copyright 2006 Dr Joe Rubino Extensive studies show that more than 85% of the population suffers from some degree of diminished self-worth- lacking self-esteem and insufficient confidence. For most
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Managing My Resistance: Learning to Flow with What Life Offers