Types of Self-Defeating Communication

If there was a law against people verbally abusing themselves- it would be a safe bet that most Americans would now be in jail. The things we say to ourselves both silently and out loud are amazing! Contd...

If there was a law against people verbally abusing themselves- it would be a safe bet that most Americans would now be in jail. The things we say to ourselves both silently and out loud are amazing! And we say these things to ourselves almost constantly. For example- how many times have you found yourself making derogatory remarks about how you reacted to a situation you have just experienced? We tend to judge and invalidate our actions when they are out of sync with our beliefs about what is right and wrong or good and bad.

If you are like the average person in our society- I suspect that you make such self-deprecating statements all too frequently. Likewise- I strongly suspect that the frequency with which you verbally abuse yourself about goals detracts significantly from your results.
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There are two types of self-defeating statements that people are prone to make. First- there are negative self-statements; that is- statements that deprecate your own self-worth and abilities. Second- there are self-pressure statements; that is- statements that bring greater pressure on you than the situation demands.
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When you make either self-pressuring statements or negative self-statements- several things can happen- most of which are bad. Negative self-statements frequently become what we call self-fulfilling prophecies. This simply means that because we expect negative reactions from ourselves- based on the negative things we’ve said about ourselves- we are likely to behave accordingly. This is because we begin to think obsessively about how bad we are rather than think about what we need to do in order to properly execute.
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Fortunately- simply by being aware of these types of self-defeating statements- you can work to develop a positive approach to your self-talk- and overcome this negative cycle.


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